I got an advance copy of the book (faaaancy!) from the publisher, and I read it on the plane to and from Colorado over the weekend... I loved this book.
I was struck by how similar I am to Gretchen in some ways. In the first chapter she wrote:
"...I always have to fight the urge to do nothing. If I didn't have to consider Jamie and my daughters, if I didn't have my mother to coach me along, I'd be living in a studio with bare walls, crooked blinds, and a futon on the floor, forever. For some, that simplicity would seem attractive and perhaps even admirable, but not to me. In my case, it would be the simplicity of evasion and apathy, not the simplicity of beautiful emptiness or voluntary poverty."
It made me think about the way that I engage with my surroundings. While I don't think I'd be living in a studio apartment with nothing more than a futon on the floor if left to my own devices, it did make me realize how I tend to get my surroundings to a point that's acceptable and livable, but not usually much more. I put in the least amount of effort, and then I leave things as they are, often half-finished or not-quite-right. I get apathetic or overwhelmed, and then I do nothing. When Ryan and I moved into our new house in June, we vowed that we were going to work on making our basement into a comfortable hang out space rather than a dumping ground for all the random things we didn't know what to do with, and yet we haven't made the time to do it, and every time I go into the basement it's kind-of depressing and is a reminder of all that I haven't done to make my house a home.
I think I get overwhelmed because there seems to be so much to do all at the same time, but I love how Gretchen broke down the areas she wanted to improve in her home life to increase her happiness and tackled them month by month, one topic at a time, using lists (I LOVE lists!) and charts to keep track. Focusing on just one topic per month makes it seem DOABLE. And that's big for me. If a project or idea seems too big and broad, I will procrastinate and find any reason not to do it.
For example, I've been saying since we moved into our house in June that I want to set up a backyard area for eating and lounging, and I've gotten as far as buying a table. It's sitting sadly in the backyard without any chairs or anything... a little thorn in my side of projects left half-done. While buying chairs isn't a very big thing in and of itself, all of the options for finding chairs overwhelm me: searching for thrift stores to hopefully find the perfect vintage-y chairs, going to IKEA, what about Home Depot?, maybe garage sales are the way to go..... too many options, and then I do nothing.
But Happier at Home is inspiring me to take charge of my home life and make it purposefully happier! I WILL get some chairs this weekend and work on my little backyard area. I'm determined, because I know how happy it'll make me to have a place to sit and hang out in the backyard.
{Gretchen takes on 9 topics in the book, one per month: Possessions, Marriage, Parenthood, Interior Design, Time, Body, Family, Neighborhood, Now.}
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So, now for the giveaway part!
Random House has generously offered to donate 5 copies of Happier at Home to 5 lucky winners!
All you have to do to enter is leave a comment on this post telling me about an area of your home life that could use a happiness injection. :)
Comments will close at 11:59pm on Tuesday September 11th, and the winners will be announced Wednesday morning, September 12th!
Good luck! Can't wait to read your comments.
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to meet the two different needs of the room... there's space to do it... but the bare walls and half completed ideas are definitely depressing reminders for me as well. Perhaps many of us are like you and Gretchen!
and felt so stupid when we saw how nice and bright our main entrance really was. I've definitely paid more attnetion since then. :)
but i could use some gentle reminders (ok, maybe more like pokes with a sharp stick) about laughing more. enjoying moments more. taking in the big picture and letting the little things go. taking a chance now & then...
put in the effort to make my space feel like 'me'. This is particularly easy when there are policies like "if you paint anything you have to paint it white again before you leave or pay x dollars", and being afraid to make holes in the walls, etc. Couple that
with having a horrendous time deciding on colors and styles and I turn into an overwhelmed mess that ends up doing nothing. Ugh! :)
they need to do. Where is the joy?
is still to be done. And through it all, I've been dealing with the diagnosis of Hashimoto's / hypothyroidism, a condition that has exacerbated my depression and fatigue problems, and, well, in short, the house is a mess. Nearly all the time. Stuff everywhere
- so much stuff! I am an artist and my studio is at home and, well, being surrounded by such clutter and chaos is just not good for my brain or my creativity. Anyway, blah, blah, blah, I could certainly use the fabulous Gretchen Rubin's help!
love leaving comments like this because it might just motivate me to take action! hugs, Erin
I need this book! I have been trying to implement some of her advice from the Happiness Project. simple stuff like if it takes less then a minute, DO IT!! I love your blog. You are an inspiration to me! -Wendy
Thanks for sharing this, Jess!
our house only to have my husband get offered a job he's been wanting in Seattle, but now the realtors are making us do so many repairs before selling it so that someone else gets to enjoy it all completed and now we will have to move to a 3 bedroom apt. that
will not allow us to have much personality (painting walls,etc) so I could use some help on how to make this move with three teens a great thing and how to make the best of a small area. I love to be at home but I feel that this move will just make us hate
staying home. :(
to take charge of keeping that area clear so when I need to sew, I'm ready.
to find a productive way to get my house in order so I can focus on my art and not worry about my unfinished house projects! All the best :)
I spend more and more time in the design room and decided I am going to switch the offices! I believe some how that moving the design stuff into the bigger nicer room will help grow my creative work so that it fills more of my home and more of my life. Now
I just need to find the time to do this! Thanks for recommending this great book!
looking forward to the next. My studio could use some happiness... we just bought our first home and every room has had some love except (surprisingly) my studio. I have procrastinated too long and really need to get some things organized in there and punch
it up with some joyful colour and magic! Oooh I really hope I win one of the books!
bump in the road and my house became my prison instead of my comfort. After many losses and now many gifts and I would never change one pot hole. I wish you great blessings and you begin a new season in your life, career and "Welcome to Oregon".
their plates b/c they are squeezed in tight between the table and wall (suck in those bellies!). And, the other lucky person on the end where it is nice and open gets to wait on the rest who can't move throughout dinner...[guess who that is? :-)]More happiness
at the family table needed?! YES! Thrift shop or lumber yard, here I come!