Hey guys! Exciting news! I'm giving away 5 copies of Gretchen Rubin's brand new book, Happier at Home, today!

I got an advance copy of the book (faaaancy!) from the publisher, and I read it on the plane to and from Colorado over the weekend... I loved this book.

I was struck by how similar I am to Gretchen in some ways. In the first chapter she wrote: 

"...I always have to fight the urge to do nothing. If I didn't have to consider Jamie and my daughters, if I didn't have my mother to coach me along, I'd be living in a studio with bare walls, crooked blinds, and a futon on the floor, forever. For some, that simplicity would seem attractive and perhaps even admirable, but not to me. In my case, it would be the simplicity of evasion and apathy, not the simplicity of beautiful emptiness or voluntary poverty."

It made me think about the way that I engage with my surroundings. While I don't think I'd be living in a studio apartment with nothing more than a futon on the floor if left to my own devices, it did make me realize how I tend to get my surroundings to a point that's acceptable and livable, but not usually much more. I put in the least amount of effort, and then I leave things as they are, often half-finished or not-quite-right. I get apathetic or overwhelmed, and then I do nothing. When Ryan and I moved into our new house in June, we vowed that we were going to work on making our basement into a comfortable hang out space rather than a dumping ground for all the random things we didn't know what to do with, and yet we haven't made the time to do it, and every time I go into the basement it's kind-of depressing and is a reminder of all that I haven't done to make my house a home.

I think I get overwhelmed because there seems to be so much to do all at the same time, but I love how Gretchen broke down the areas she wanted to improve in her home life to increase her happiness and tackled them month by month, one topic at a time, using lists (I LOVE lists!) and charts to keep track. Focusing on just one topic per month makes it seem DOABLE. And that's big for me. If a project or idea seems too big and broad, I will procrastinate and find any reason not to do it.

For example, I've been saying since we moved into our house in June that I want to set up a backyard area for eating and lounging, and I've gotten as far as buying a table. It's sitting sadly in the backyard without any chairs or anything... a little thorn in my side of projects left half-done. While buying chairs isn't a very big thing in and of itself, all of the options for finding chairs overwhelm me: searching for thrift stores to hopefully find the perfect vintage-y chairs, going to IKEA, what about Home Depot?, maybe garage sales are the way to go..... too many options, and then I do nothing.

But Happier at Home is inspiring me to take charge of my home life and make it purposefully happier! I WILL get some chairs this weekend and work on my little backyard area. I'm determined, because I know how happy it'll make me to have a place to sit and hang out in the backyard.

{Gretchen takes on 9 topics in the book, one per month: Possessions, Marriage, Parenthood, Interior Design, Time, Body, Family, Neighborhood, Now.}

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So, now for the giveaway part!

Random House has generously offered to donate 5 copies of Happier at Home to 5 lucky winners!

All you have to do to enter is leave a comment on this post telling me about an area of your home life that could use a happiness injection. :)

Comments will close at 11:59pm on Tuesday September 11th, and the winners will be announced Wednesday morning, September 12th!

Good luck! Can't wait to read your comments.




comments
eSeN commented on 06-Sep-2012 10:20 PM
Our 2nd bedroom. It's supposed to be our office, but though we've managed to put my husband's desk in there (so he could move off of the dining room table!), it's still full of stuff we have to go through. Moving two homes into one is so not fun. Overwhelm,
indeed.
linda commented on 07-Sep-2012 01:07 AM
Thanks for the chance! I'm excited to read Gretchen's new book as I found the Happiness Project to be very inspiring :) Living in a small space, my bedroom and office is sort of melded into one. I really want to to make it all more inspiring and separated...
to meet the two different needs of the room... there's space to do it... but the bare walls and half completed ideas are definitely depressing reminders for me as well. Perhaps many of us are like you and Gretchen!
fiona hill commented on 07-Sep-2012 03:16 AM
I can sooooooooooooooooooo relate...sounds like a fabulous book....i look at my garage everytime I go to the loo and have grand visions for it :) An art studio where neighbours one n all can come have a paint and play..spreading the art love!
Annika commented on 07-Sep-2012 05:37 AM
My kitchen could need one. It's a very tiny kitchen and it gets untidy very quickly! Good luck for making your garden and basement a place you feel very, very happy about.
stephanie costello commented on 07-Sep-2012 06:06 AM
just moved house. garage FULL of boxes, stuff i don't know what to do with, where to put it, overwhelmed, yet need my garage space.... yessss i need the book.
sandra dumais commented on 07-Sep-2012 06:14 AM
haha! This made me think of the time my roommate and I were complaining about our main hallway being so dark and unappealing. We then realized it was because we had NEVER replaced the dead bulb - never since we lived there (2 years). We replaced it promptly
and felt so stupid when we saw how nice and bright our main entrance really was. I've definitely paid more attnetion since then. :)
tiffany commented on 07-Sep-2012 06:34 AM
i think the marriage and parenthood chapters sound the most interesting... i'm certainly happy in each respect, but i'd love a jolt of JOY. i'm happy with how our home is decorated, my sewing machine is often buzzing, my daughter's art area is well used,
but i could use some gentle reminders (ok, maybe more like pokes with a sharp stick) about laughing more. enjoying moments more. taking in the big picture and letting the little things go. taking a chance now & then...
Lesley commented on 07-Sep-2012 07:05 AM
My home decor could definitely be happier. I'm similar in that I move to a new place, and especially if I feel like it won't be permanent (because when you live in an apartment, when is anything really all that permanent?) I just don't take the time or
put in the effort to make my space feel like 'me'. This is particularly easy when there are policies like "if you paint anything you have to paint it white again before you leave or pay x dollars", and being afraid to make holes in the walls, etc. Couple that
with having a horrendous time deciding on colors and styles and I turn into an overwhelmed mess that ends up doing nothing. Ugh! :)
Kirsten Dehmlow commented on 07-Sep-2012 07:25 AM
I am a mom of five children ages six to seventeen. It feels like we do not have fun at home anymore. Everyone is headed off in different directions.When I see my older children I feel I am just reminding (or nagging?) them about chores and other things
they need to do. Where is the joy?
Cheryl Sorg commented on 07-Sep-2012 07:39 AM
I'd be hard pressed to name a spot in my house that could NOT use a happiness injection! We became first-time homeowners a year ago and have done all kinds of great diy projects around the house. Money and energy have kind of run out, though, and much
is still to be done. And through it all, I've been dealing with the diagnosis of Hashimoto's / hypothyroidism, a condition that has exacerbated my depression and fatigue problems, and, well, in short, the house is a mess. Nearly all the time. Stuff everywhere
- so much stuff! I am an artist and my studio is at home and, well, being surrounded by such clutter and chaos is just not good for my brain or my creativity. Anyway, blah, blah, blah, I could certainly use the fabulous Gretchen Rubin's help!
Erin Keane commented on 07-Sep-2012 08:51 AM
Sounds very inspiring! The hallway next to my studio could use a happiness injection. When I moved in three months ago, I envisioned painting it bright clean white and hanging my framed photography as a mini gallery exhibit. I have yet to do so. But I
love leaving comments like this because it might just motivate me to take action! hugs, Erin
Wendy commented on 07-Sep-2012 09:23 AM
We moved in April. We sold our old house at the end of July. I am now starting to focus on the new house but I am like you. I will focus until it is livable and then move on. Then I will sit around or walk around and just get mad at all that is undone.
I need this book! I have been trying to implement some of her advice from the Happiness Project. simple stuff like if it takes less then a minute, DO IT!! I love your blog. You are an inspiration to me! -Wendy
Lorinda Fraser commented on 07-Sep-2012 10:01 AM
Being perpetual renters a definite apathy sets in. Why paint if it's not our house and we don't know how long we'll stay? 7 years later I wish I had painted. The happiness ROI would have been worth it! Reno'ing our ugly kitchen? Likely even that too!
Abbie commented on 07-Sep-2012 11:20 AM
I use the excuse "I'm renting" to not decorate and fully appreciate the space I have. I'd love some inspiration to get up and decorate anyway!
Nikki Jeske commented on 07-Sep-2012 12:38 PM
Lately I've been feeling absolutely exhausted whenever I get home from work. And exhaustion is a horrible enemy of happiness - so I would love to be able to come home and read this book and get the kickstart I need to turn it around. This book looks amazing.
Thanks for sharing this, Jess!
Laura Gaffke commented on 07-Sep-2012 05:50 PM
I too get overwhelmed with having SO much to do! It might sound strange but my hallways/stairwell could use a bit of happiness. It is one area of my home that I walk by everyday and there is nothing fun or happy going on there! This book sounds great!
Renee A. commented on 08-Sep-2012 08:15 AM
Oh,wow,at this point I could use any and all help right about now. We just bought our current house 3 years ago (estate sale....ugly and all....imagine purple tub,toilet and sink....yes,that old!). So recently we were planning to make some updates to enjoy
our house only to have my husband get offered a job he's been wanting in Seattle, but now the realtors are making us do so many repairs before selling it so that someone else gets to enjoy it all completed and now we will have to move to a 3 bedroom apt. that
will not allow us to have much personality (painting walls,etc) so I could use some help on how to make this move with three teens a great thing and how to make the best of a small area. I love to be at home but I feel that this move will just make us hate
staying home. :(
Jenn H commented on 08-Sep-2012 09:54 AM
Our bedroom. It is the last place in our house that needs some MAJOR TLC. The only good parts of it is our bed cover and the lamps..I need help:):)
samantha commented on 08-Sep-2012 11:47 AM
I need to take the time to organize my craft space. I have a bookshelf and sewing table that should give me a good amount of crafting space and organization, but too often I end up piling all of my things on top of each other and then I can't sew! I need
to take charge of keeping that area clear so when I need to sew, I'm ready.
Kimberly Yaker commented on 09-Sep-2012 06:40 AM
Wow...sounds like a great book! With three young kids, a love of "DIY", working on my art and other creative projects...every room in our home has half finished projects! My studio needs the most work so sadly my art time has been on hold. I would love
to find a productive way to get my house in order so I can focus on my art and not worry about my unfinished house projects! All the best :)
Laura Wooten commented on 09-Sep-2012 12:26 PM
I have two offices in my home. The bigger, prettier, sunnier room is where I do my day job that pays the bills but does not fullfill me. The smaller darker room houses my Mac and my secret plan to do what I love and become a surface designer and illustrator.
I spend more and more time in the design room and decided I am going to switch the offices! I believe some how that moving the design stuff into the bigger nicer room will help grow my creative work so that it fills more of my home and more of my life. Now
I just need to find the time to do this! Thanks for recommending this great book!
ashley commented on 09-Sep-2012 08:18 PM
OH YAY! I am in the middle of reading The Happiness Project right now!! Mentioned it in my latest blog post actually. Was super excited to see that Gretchen came out with this one for the home too!! Before I am even finished the first one I am already
looking forward to the next. My studio could use some happiness... we just bought our first home and every room has had some love except (surprisingly) my studio. I have procrastinated too long and really need to get some things organized in there and punch
it up with some joyful colour and magic! Oooh I really hope I win one of the books!
Anonymous commented on 10-Sep-2012 08:08 PM
Jessica, I was happy to find your blog and beautiful art. I am so inspired by women who are much younger, so talented and gifted as you. I sometimes think because I am in my middle age that I should have it all together, though I found that I had a long
bump in the road and my house became my prison instead of my comfort. After many losses and now many gifts and I would never change one pot hole. I wish you great blessings and you begin a new season in your life, career and "Welcome to Oregon".
Cee commented on 11-Sep-2012 06:06 AM
I would have to say ... our living room. We spend most of our time there, and it definitely needs happiness. We tend to gather in there to eat our dinners, rather than eat at a table, and I wish it were more cozy and intimate, and really a relaxing space.
Laura McGann commented on 11-Sep-2012 08:45 AM
We just downsized which is already making me happpppy but our dining room table is now way too big for our eat-in-kitchen/dining room. Whoever sits in the chair near the window can't get out once seated and the two lucky people on the sides can't finish
their plates b/c they are squeezed in tight between the table and wall (suck in those bellies!). And, the other lucky person on the end where it is nice and open gets to wait on the rest who can't move throughout dinner...[guess who that is? :-)]More happiness
at the family table needed?! YES! Thrift shop or lumber yard, here I come!

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